Are You Playing to Win or Building to Last?
Tossing Out the Scorecard in Relationships
Once upon a recent time, in the bustling metropolis of My Mind, I found myself knee-deep in the mucky realization that my approach to relationships was akin to a toddler’s grasp on quantum physics: enthusiastic but profoundly misguided. You see, in the grand coliseum of my emotional engagements, I was both the star player and the beleaguered scorekeeper. I viewed relationships as fierce competition, where keeping a meticulous scorecard was as crucial as breathing. But let me tell you, when you’re tallying points in the game of love and friendship, the scoreboard never actually declares a winner. Instead, it whispers a cautionary tale: “When you keep a scorecard, everyone loses.”
Imagine, if you will, that relationships are like a cozy, candle-lit dinner party. In my scenario, instead of savoring the flavors and basking in the warmth of shared laughter, I was the host obsessed with ensuring that every compliment, gesture, and slice of shared cake was logged and balanced. “You brought wine? That’s two points for you. But I cooked dinner, so let’s say that’s three points for me.” The absurdity of it, right? This mindset transformed what could have been a heartwarming gathering into a transactional debacle, where connections were measured not by depth but by debts owed and paid.
